Family Drama

What is a holiday without a good dose of family drama. Well I have to say I was not spared this holiday. Even thought I live over an 18 hour drive from my family. I was granted the family drama via the phone. First I got very emotional over some family business that I felt was not being taken seriously. Then I had two family members crying to me over the phone for different reasons. One accusing me of taking the other persons side.

All I could think is why are they calling me with this. I am not the most sensitive person. I know it and it isn’t a family secret. I guess I have a hard shell towards my family because I feel I am never heard and feelings never taken into consideration. So  it is hard for me to listen to the crying with much sympathy. I know that is horrible. I am no therapist, and I don’t want to be in the middle at all.

I love my family but I feel they can be very selfish. There feelings are the most important. Have you ever talked to someone and they seemed to spin it to how it affects them. There is always some come back with their pain and issues when you have something to say.

Then when you dish the same thing out to them all hell breaks loose. I got blasted for doing the exact same thing to a family member she does to me. She told me I was insensitive and mean. I said wow I took that out of your play book. I asked her did she remember doing the exact same thing to me. Why is ok for her to treat me like crap when she feels like it. When I treat her the same way there is an up roar of drama. That is my family what can I do. I can pick my friends I can’t pick the family I was born into.

I try to focus on my behavior and how I treat others. I am moody and I know it. When I don’t feel like being bothered I want to be left alone. I am not always in the mood for family B.S.

I have a right to take myself out of the equation. I have to protect my feelings I can’t worry about everyone else.  If I took all their dramas on to myself I would be on many drugs. God bless them, God change me!!

3 thoughts on “Family Drama

  1. I can so relate to this.. Usually my holidays, well lets be real every day, is filled with that kind of family drama if I allow it! I decided many years ago that I wont allow it… it still happens but as you say I take myself out of the equation now. short visits and short calls and maybe even some evading of calls works well for me.. I chose to be happy several years back and my family doesn’t help with that so I have to moderate it.. Sorry to hear you holidays were drama filled.. I hope next year is better… 🙂

  2. The Hoildiays are a tough time for me when it comes to family drama. I’d love the “perfect” family that gets together at Christmas in peace and love, but that just ain’t my clan. My best Christmas celebrations are the ones I have with my friends. Sometimes you just have to let them be dramatic.

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