I noticed with age my friend pool seems to have depleted. Some friends I have out grown. Or our lives have went into to complete different directions. I use to try to keep in touch with people. When I started to realize I was making all the effort. I cut that shit out. Why am I begging to keep a friendship alive.
Well this weekend a long-standing friend of mine and I had a falling out. We have been friends for about 30 years. The friendship could be over completely. I have to say my feelings are not what I expected. I really could careless. It has been on my mind and I have been thinking about it a lot. I haven’t even mourn the friendship like others I have lost for various reason.
She is a very bossy and controlling type of friend. The funny think if I met her now I doubt we would be friends. She is a good person in the sence she is a caring individual. Anything she does she is doing because she thinks she is helping. I don’t feel she does anything out of malice.
I do feel as adults no one really wants unsolicited advice. I am under the impression no one is perfect. Everyone has their own way of doing things. Weather that be relationships, how they raise their children and how they live there life. So I might listen or make a comment but if you feel it isn’t right for you then so be it. It is your life. This friend makes a comment and expect you to do exactly what she says. Not happening in my world.
Well the argument stemmed on another long-standing friend and bossy controlling friend having issues. In bossy friends world she felt it was okay because she was upset, to tell our other friend that she needs to stand up to her husband. Blah Blah.
Regardless of the rest of situation in my opinion you don’t tell anyone what to do with their husband. That is very easy way to lose friends. I expressed my opinion to bossy that she needs to respect other people’s marriages. Well she went ripping crazy. Yelling, screaming and swearing. Telling me I need to choose my words wisely. I instantly thought to myself. Who the hell does this bitch think she is. I am damn near 40 years old. I say what I mean and mean what I say. She had to go quickly and I let her go. I still did not yell or scream or swear at this woman. I sent her a text message telling her she needs to decided if my opinion will be respected even if it disagrees with hers. If we can’t have a basic conversation without yelling screaming and swearing. Then don’t call me back.
I don’t have time for drama. I will miss our conversations, but I will not lose sleep because she isn’t in my life. The back of the hair was standing on my neck when she went off. I know she talks to her husband like that. She talks to her family life that. She has never talk to me like that. If that is the only way she can communicate then she is less one friend. Oh well life goes on. Sometimes you need to clean house. I need positive not negative. The situation that started the argument had nothing to do with me. But when I am disrespected for no damn reason it ended up about me.